Why do gays act the way they do

Physical bravery has historically been associated with manliness. The injustice harms you, but in making an issue of it you claim that it affects others too. In a similar vein, they also tend toward:. Competitiveness might be considered one of the defining features of masculinity.

Manliness is not mere generalized pushiness but rather a claim on your attention. Assertiveness and Self-Display. It's masculine protectiveness at its best. After identifying phonetic characteristics that seem to make a man’s voice sound gay, their best hunch is that some gay men may subconsciously adopt certain female speech patterns.

I believe we need to reform our brand of competitiveness so we can all leave the playing field feeling good about ourselves. In short, gay men are much more like straight men than we usually think. Having a strong sex drive is a component of masculinity; gay and straight men feel drawn to different genders, but the drive is identical.

Whether straight or gay, the male body produces times more testosterone than the female body; it builds our muscles, grows hair on our faces and chests, deepens our voices, and affects our behavior. Posted February 24, Reviewed by Gary Drevitch. And as every gay man knows, coming out of the closet takes courage.

I believe that this style of competition stems from the legacy of unresolved shame that lies deep within many gay men. You need courage to speak out for your rights in the face of hatred and intolerance. Gay male speech has been the focus of numerous modern stereotypes, as well as sociolinguistic studies, particularly within North American English.

Since the beginning of human history, men have been driven to compete, either in war, on the athletic field, or in the business world, where they continuously compete with other men and women for promotions, money, and proof of their success. When you look at the traits and behaviors historically identified with masculinity, subtracting its most noxious and ultimately dysfunctional forms, gay men embody them in ways that have gone unrecognized.

Here’s the surprising truth I’ve discovered: Gay men are often more masculine than they recognize, and not only the ones with big muscles. I speak in generalities here; not all men or all women fit these descriptions. Men tend to have a stronger sex drive, to want more sexual partners, and to find casual sex more acceptable than women do.

In her book, “The Male Brain,” neuropsychiatrist Dr. Louann Brizendine explores those differences to explain why some men act the way they do. In large part, this is due to:. It tends to make us assertive, more narrowly focused, and more on the prowl for sex. It can also instill:.

Gay and straight men have this courage in common. Gay men care just as much as straight men do about their social status and visible signs of their success. Manly men also speak out and want you to know they have something important to say. Gay men are liable to feel incredibly insecure over their masculinity, a kind of internalized homophobia that leads them to idolize 'masc 4 masc', 'gaybros' and [to] shame and oppress femme men.

Alan Downs agrees. A healthier way to deal with such shame is to take a closer look at positive not toxic masculine traits and to recognize the ways we actually do embody them. They free themselves from self-doubt and escape from shame by humiliating someone else. They want to know how men acquire this manner of speaking, and why – especially when society so often stigmatizes those with gay-sounding voices.

In recent years, much has been written about the tendency of men to cluster in packs, most of it negative see e. In The Velvet Rage , Alan Downs describes life in San Francisco and regular visits to the Napa Valley homes of wealthy gay men he knew, each house more beautiful than the last, the elegant dinner parties that took days to prepare, their fabulous vacations, collections of artwork, clothes, infinity pools, and so on.

We men are such an opinionated bunch. In a way that may at first seem counterintuitive, the gay man who draws attention to himself by flagrantly dressing in drag is behaving in an extremely manly way by seeking drama.